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Blame is defined as "putting the responsibility of an error on something or someone other than yourself." To put it this way, blame is put on everything and everyone nowadays. A kid grows up to murder his parents, who does he blame? He certainly doesn't take credit for it. Oh no. He blames his parents, because in sixth grade they came to pick him up from school thirty minutes late, therefore making him think they didn't love him and forgot about him. So he goes through his life with all the built up rage, and finally he snaps and kills his "unloving" parents who left him one day, ten years ago. PLEASE. All this psychobabble is insane. But these stories are actually told in court sometimes. Why can't people just take responsibility for their actions? Just say you did it.
I'll use this as another example. Say you have a child who worships a big sports icon. Your kid wants to be just like him in every way. He's got cards, sheets, posters, shirts, pants, jock straps with his sports icon on it. Suddenly, one day, the big sports icon gets caught taking drugs, and say, a DUI. Well the kid is devastated. But when he gets a little older, he starts taking drugs. The mother finds out.
Who does she blame? Not her son, not the way she raised him. She'll most likely blame the sports icon. I honestly don't think it's a sports stars problem, because he's not the baby-sitter of your child. Maybe, and I'm saying maybe, if a decent job was done at home, the child wouldn't take drugs. I know there are cases where that doesn't apply, but hey, some parents do a really shitty job.
Sometimes, of course, blame does have a leg to stand on. Such as kids living at home with abusive parents. THAT is terrible and it does need to stop, and yes I am blaming the parents because the child may not be capable of leaving the situation. I, however, was capable of leaving when my boyfriend hit me. But I didn't, therefore, I think I almost deserved to get hit again. I blame him the first time, I blame myself for staying after the first time. Reality is very tough. That's just how it is; and I know sometime it breaks your heart. I'm not saying you deserve it. But if people continue to claim that they are victims, they will never make an effort to do anything for themselves, without depending on their past to get them through life.
America is so caught up on blame. And we're all guilty of it, no one is safe from blame, or getting blamed for something. Even our government blames everyone else, but they never just sit back and say "Hey look, we fucked up, and we're sorry." There, what's so hard about that?
But of course, that's just my opinion...and while it's a good one, it's not the only one. |
